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Remember When…Back To School Happened September 4, 2015

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3fc579b7948726e53bff5247a0d5d2c0Recently, all I’ve been seeing are commercials for back to school clothes, back to school supplies, and back to school sales. As someone who hasn’t gone “back to school” in a long time, these commercials usually signal the freedom of the sidewalks and the parks, I’ll finally be able to walk to the store without a twelve-year-old whizzing past me on a skateboard. However, the other day I was sitting in a good ole Applebee’s and two school age girls behind me were desperately texting all their friends to find out which classes they had. It was all they could talk about as the replies poured in. Rather than feeling excited, I felt nostalgic. DLIH hasn’t seen a Remember When post in some time! So here’s a little ode to those precious back to school moments, the good, the bad, the “adorable”.

The sweet, yet somewhat depressing, memoirs of a once-was-a-fourteen-year-old:

Remember when…:

  • Getting your school supplies list was horrible…but then once you got into Office Depot you just couldn’t stop yourself from buying everything.
  • Finding out which lunch period your best friends had was crucial! and finding out they didn’t have the same lunch as you was probably the worst thing that could have ever happened.
  • Everyone walked in the first day of school with brand new, shiny shoes, and then all you heard was squeaking for the next month.
  • Waiting, anxiously, to see how your crush changed over the summer and finding out they had only become hotter! Hoping the “mean girls” would come back hideous, and realizing they, too, only came back hotter and had a new car.
  • Making your locker perfectly color coded, organized, and decorated…but having it last only one week.
  • Procrastinating on your summer reading list, only to spend the last week of summer locked in your bedroom in a last-ditch effort to finish it.
  • The refreshing smell of fall, new plastic, and floor wax…everywhere.
  • Carefully plotting which classes you had with which friends and how you would walk together, while simultaneously planning how you’d escape to see friends you didn’t have classes with.
  • The sheer awkwardness of new kids, and sizing them up to determine if you want to be friends with them or not.
  • Feeling like you were one step cooler because you were one grade older…and if you were a senior, thinking you were the epitome of everything amazing in this world.
  • Waiting to see who made varsity football and wondering how this will, or potentially could, affect your social status
  • Scanning the new and familiar faces on the school bus like you were Iron Man.
  • Picking this year’s SPOT for you and your friends to hang out, and make it known that your group had claimed it.
  • Mentally picking out who you were going to get rides from…and how.
  • Hearing the clicking of heels in the hallway and having that sheer terror wash over you…suddenly remembering why you love summer so much.

The Evolving Marketer – Take II July 26, 2015

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I don’t often post content that isn’t fresh and original on DLIH, but I recently wrote this post for my professional blog and while writing it thought, “Hey, this is totally relevant!”. DLIH is all about improving yourself, being your best you, and continuously evolving and growing. Professionally speaking, it’s a real reality check to find yourself behind the trend or technology and personally, I always want to be learning something new! So, with out further ado, The Evolving Marketer
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There are many of us who don’t remember life before Facebook; even more so, those of us who often find ourselves reminiscing about that mysterious Tom on MySpace. It’s no secret that the world of social media has not only evolved over the last fifteen years, but it has exploded. In fact, technology itself has taken over the mediums we once knew as “media” and formed into an animal all its own. Newspaper subscriptions are now online editions, YouTube has created hosts, singers, makeup artists and comedians, and the ways in which we communicate with one another are not just through written word anymore, but through a variety of virtual vocabularies.

social-media-youth-health-phone-screenIn 2008, I was in my social media prime. There were so many social media positions available and I was exactly what they were looking for, young, knowledgable and grew up with this booming technology. I could set up a Facebook note, I could schedule a post, I could make your blog look like you paid me twice as much to do it. I had gotten my first social media marketing gig and while I was nailing the Facebook growth, there was this website called Twitter, which alluded me, so, in an effort to better understand how this 140 character blab fest could be used to sell our products, I set up my own account and played around. What I learned, very quickly, was that Twitter wasn’t a place for teenagers to mindlessly jibber-jabber, and it also wasn’t a place to sell – it was a platform on which to build community. (more…)

Stop Thinking Like a 30-Something, Start Thinking For Yourself! May 4, 2015

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If you have’t noticed yet, I re-post a lot of Elite Daily articles. It’s a site I really admire because they have a lot of great things to say, especially to twenty-somethings. Most recently, I found this article on how those in their 20’s need to stop thinking like those in their 30’s. While I was reading it, I found myself disagreeing with many of the points that were made. I like reading different people’s views or opinions on life, most of all, how their experiences have shaped them, and I do think that there are always beneficial moments to take from everything you read. However, when we are encouraging or supporting those who are coming up after us, I think it’s very important to reinforce positive information for all types of people and all sorts of girls. We come from different backgrounds, upbringings and cultures, so there cannot be an end all be all of how to live your life, or grown-up or shape your future. So, here is my own version of Why 20-Something Women Need To Stop Thinking Like 30-Something Women (but instead, think for themselves!) –

We have all totally been “that girl”. That girl who had two too many glasses of Pinot and starts off on her pity party about never falling in love, having a baby too late in life, never making it in her career, “I just don’t get what’s wrong with me! How is Lindsay Lohan, who’s a total mess, famous and buying houses and cars while I’m an educated, smart, caring girl and I can’t even get a full-time job, or a boyfriend, or a nice apartment?!” I know I’ve been that girl. (more…)

Making Life Choices…and Facing Hilarious Realities January 8, 2015

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Check out this great post about the Catch-22’s of being in your twenties! Grab a glass of wine, and laugh your bad day away – The 20 Catch-22s Of Being In Your 20’s, by Lauren Martin at the Elite Daily.

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The Pressure of Finding a Role Model August 18, 2014

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“I want you to write a one page essay on the person in your life who inspires you.” If you haven’t heard that at least five times, then you surely didn’t go to school in America. Ever since we were children, we were groomed to, essentially, find someone to look up to. We’ve constantly been asked about who we look up to, who lights the fire under us, who we want to be like. Then, there’s me.

When I was a toddler I had two things on my mind, what to do and how to do it. There was no bad influence from the TV, there were no crazy ideas that I developed after watching someone else, everything I did, I did of my own volition. You could say, I was a super determined kid, and really self motivating. It would also be safe to say I never wanted to do things like everyone else did them, I wanted to find my own, unique way to go about it. So, when my very first English teacher asked me to talk about someone who inspired me, I didn’t really know what to say.

Everyone has people they admire for certain parts of their personality. You could say you are inspired by a person’s strength, courage, kindness, outgoing personality, a person’s ability to be fearless, and so on. You can also be moved by someone’s story, or feel driven by their accomplishments. To say that there is a person I owe my entire lifestyle to, well, that person would be me.

IMG_0102.JPGI know that sounds selfish, but it doesn’t come from a selfish place. I don’t have just one person to thank for where I am, but an entire list; (more…)

Your Best Investment April 5, 2014

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I’ll be perfectly honest, for a long time I didn’t believe in college. I thought that I had gotten through life well enough doing my own thing, on my own path and I could do it all without wasting time and money on a degree. Sure, at some point everyone thinks that but for me, it was different. Many of you know I didn’t go to college until I was 22 because I was dancing professionally. It’s also true that many ballerinas don’t ever go to college because, after their careers, they don’t need to. However, I didn’t really value a college education until I realized I didn’t have one. When I was fifteen I told everyone I would get degree in marketing. I didn’t know how or when or where, but I knew that’s what I’d eventually do. Over ten years later, I did do just that, and that’s a great feeling. So, its pretty rough for me to hear about all the people out thee who think getting a college education is no big deal, like they can Cruz through life, and it’ll all just be okay for them.

Over this past year, I’ve listened to two speakers preach about how they didn’t go to college. I, better than anyone, know what forging your own path is like, but is dropping out really something to brag about? Sure, there’s Bill Gates, but the company he started revolutionized the world. What per take of the population actually does that? I think if you are able to get an education, financially, physically, mentally, wasting it is really a waste of your future. When you’re 18 and your parents are probably paying for most of your schooling, you’re just happy to be out of the house, and maybe you don’t take things as you should, maybe you take this degree for granted. When your going to school as an adult, everything is different. You’re more accountable, you see the worth, and most of all you are proud of what you have done. Don’t look us, any of us who have a degree, in the eye and tell us you dropped out and here is why it’s fabulous.

The first speaker I heard, her story went something like this: I didn’t know what I wanted to do in life, so I just moved to this city and worked part-time jobs. Then I went into fashion, but I hated it, so I dropped out. Then I wanted to go into law, by I hated that and I dropped out. Then I moved again and got this job, and now im starting my own company. To be honest, it wasnt inspiring, it was frustrating. Why am I pay my way through college by your on a soap box, preaching about how great you are for never committing to anything you started. Isn’t it more inspiring to come past your obstacles, triumph adversity and achieve something you never knew you could…not simply giving use.

The next speaker I heard, this story went a little different. She never really out right said she didn’t go to school, instead she bent the truth. She told her audience that she did her undergrad in a major city,  so we all equally assumed she went to the state school there. She then told us she got her MBA at an  Ivey league, where she gained the tools to start her company. It was a great story! But it was just that, a story. During the lecture break, I was inspired, so I read her bio online. Turns out, she never went to that state school, she attended a small, local college 3 towns over, which she left before her junior year, and her Ivey league education was nothing more than a 3 week summer session. It was deflating to look up to this person and then have it all come crashing down.

To anyone out there who worked hard for a college education, frankly, it’s insulting. Whether you graduated when you were 22 or 65, this little piece of paper is an achievement, it’s something that no one can ever take away from you. It was an investment you made in your future. Everyone can be successful in many different ways, success is not necessarily measured by education, it’s measured by strength, perseverance, determination, achieving your goals and honesty, among other things. You should also encourage people to be their best self, to strive for things and work now so you don’t have to work later. Giving up, or being lazy, trying to find the “easy” path isn’t something to preach about

What I learned from these speakers wasn’t that there was an easy way out, and wasn’t that I was better than them, or that I was jealous of them, but it was this: if my life came crashing down tomorrow, if I lost everything, I would still have this. I will always have a building block to step on and move forward, and they won’t. I learned that I should never take education for granted,and I should always be a positive influence to others, I should never encourage dishonesty or giving up. Most of all, I learned that I should be proud of myself, because at least in this aspect of life, I made it, I am successful.

It’s Not My Dream, It’s a Job…Someone Else’s Dream January 27, 2014

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The other day someone said to me “You don’t even have your bachelors yet and you already have a full-time salaried job that you like, how can you even complain about work?”

Chances are, you’ve either felt this before, or you’ve been on the receiving end. Let me begin by explaining that there is a group of people I loathe. They cruised through life without any real struggle, they were middle of the road, not the star of the football team, but not the comic book nerd in the corner. They are as average as average gets, and when anything hard did happen, someone else handled it for them. They didn’t ask for help, nor did they deny it when it was given. When it came to responsibility, they had very little. They simply just lived and everything came to them, so when they grew up, they were unable to understand that the majority of people’s lives didn’t work that way. The star quarterback may have been popular, and admired, but he had to wake up at 5am everyday to study his plays, and practice. The comic book nerd had to find his cool, and maybe didn’t have a lot of friends, but when it came to getting into college he had his pick. Some of us came from families who couldn’t afford college, so we bear the weight of student loans, while other’s were smothered by their wealthy parents, and just want to prove their success on their own terms, not because their dad knew someone, who knew someone, who knew someone, who gave them a job. To those middle of the road people, life is just a ride and they’re on it.

So, when those people who never had it too easy or too hard tell you their job sucks and they wish they had more time for school, or friends, or a relationship, yes, you can lash out with all fury. These people don’t know what hard is, they have no frame of reference. For the rest of us, there are two important lessons to learn here:complaint1

1. We all complain. For some reason, this is a fact of life. We come home, we pour a glass of wine and we launch into our list of things that went wrong that day, when in reality, these things aren’t much to complain about at all. Ever had someone tell you “there are starving children in the world and this is what you’re worried about”?. Ever want to slap the person who says that to you because it’s condescending and annoying? Look at all those hands raised! The point is, it’s true. It’s cliché and something people say when they want to get under your skin, but we do often take for granted what we have. There are so many people out there, normal people, people with educations, people who work hard, who don’t have a job. People who can’t go to school right now, people who would love to come home and complain about something, anything. Sure, at times it may not feel like we’re complaining, we’re just talking about our day, and we don’t actually take it for granted, but do we appreciate it?

They say being not sad is not the same thing is being happy. The same is true here, just because you don’t take something for granted, doesn’t mean you appreciate it. For every little thing that bothers you about your day, find something that you enjoyed, even if it’s not related. “My annoying co-worker wrote all over one of my spreadsheets, without asking if it was okay.” can be combated with “I found the cutest little lunch spot next to my work!”.

2. We need to be sensitive to other people. We have all been in a situation where our non-single friend went on, and on, and on, and on about how complicated and tasking being a relationship is. All we wanted to do was punch her in the face, and probably did in our mind, because if you’re looking for love, the last thing you want to hear is that your in-love friends wish they were single. So, keep in mind that your friends who are looking for a good job, or the finances to go to school, or the ability to move into a great apartment, etc. may not want to hear about how your landlord couldn’t fix your central air the absolute second you called him. It’s not that you shouldn’t talk about it, it’s just that you shouldn’t rub it in their face. Phrases like “Can I get your opinion?” or “Do you mind if I just vent for a second?” can make people more open to hearing what you have to say rather than “Oh my Gosh! Can you believe I had to work late again last night, this job is so exhausting!”

That brings us to, yes, some people are going to accuse you of rubbing it in no matter what you do. They’re going through a hard time, they wouldn’t want to hear it if you said “I quit my job so they can hire you!”. It’s just where they are in life. Let them be. They’re either never going to be happy, or they’ll eventually be ok. You can’t change the person who don’t see what needs improvement.

Everyone’s life is going to have ups and downs. Live your life as best you can, and be sensitive to those who need to catch a break. You never know when it might be you who just needs a breather.

I’m an Optimistic Realist January 19, 2014

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Like many other little girls, I wanted to be a ballerina. Unlike many other little girls, I actually was. Not just the kind of ballerina that has a job or two and then goes off to college, but the kind of ballerina that seven year olds see on big posters, point to and say “Mommy, I want to look like that”. I can’t tell you that growing up, I wasn’t an optimist, but it also came easy for me. I came from a ballet family, so everything was available to me, and things came easy, even though the work was hard. When I became an adult, everything changed.

When you are the smartest in your high school, the star player on your volleyball team, or the best dancer in your school, it’s a shock when you graduate high school or college, and fall  into the real world. No matter how good you are, you have to start at the bottom of the totem pole and not only prove yourself, and pay your dues, but start being realistic about your life and your career. I once told my family that if I reached 24, and still hadn’t “made it”, they had to remind me that I promised myself to stop, and pick a new career. I didn’t want to be one of those 32 year olds living paycheck to paycheck, still thinking they were going to “make it big”. Part of becoming an adult is becoming realistic. It’s not longer a dream that you’ve got to focus on, it’s an entire life filled with responsibilities. images

It’s easy to become negative once you’re out from under the umbrella of your parents, or your small pond. Things that were once easy seem eternally difficult. Before, you could ace that quiz or win that game by just doing what you do best, now you have to work hard for it and even then it feels like you fell miles too short. How many of your friends do you know who graduated with great ambitions and bigger than life plans, and today, they’re working as someone’s paralegal, making next to nothing, and living in a studio apartment in a neighborhood you’d never be caught dead in? They’re not underachievers, they’re not lazy, that’s just real life sometimes. One of the toughest things in your twenties is remembering your dreams, and working towards them, but also being realistic about life, and how it works.

My cousin once coined the phrase, “I’m an optimistic realist” (before all the cool kids were saying it, before it was really a real thing). At the time, I didn’t understand what that meant, or how it could work. For most of my life, I threw around a lot of “I can’t”, “I won’t”, “it’s impossible”, not knowing that this was making me a pessimist. Also, not knowing what any of those words really meant. I’d say, “I can’t”, and then five minutes later, I’d just do it. When I was out on my own, I’d say “I can’t” as a synonym for: “I don’t have time”, “I’m not financially able to”, “This isn’t an option for me right now”. That’s when I decided to be an optimistic realist. Find a way to make it work and if you can’t, make sure it’s for the right reasons. When I wanted to go to college, I found a way to do it while still working full-time. I also found a way to pay for it, even though it wasn’t easy (or cheap!), and when I had the opportunity to work in sports, plus everything else, I found the time to do it all. Solutions.

I never gave up on my dreams, I just knew that I had to take a different path to get to them. It was no longer going to be a straight shot, the way it was when I was a kid. Being an optimistic realist means looking for solutions, it means understanding your responsibilities while still keeping an open mind about your dreams. For the ten years you’re in your twenties, this is going to be one of the hardest things to do, and you’ll fall off the wagon a lot, the important thing is to get right back on.

New Year…Same Old You Being Better January 14, 2014

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New year, new you, right? Or maybe just new year, same old you trying to be the you that you wants to be? Well, that’s a mouthful but chances are January 2014 is the time when you save up all the promises you made yourself to actually take action on them. Go the gym more, finally finish that book you started writing, eat healthier, call your grandparents more, stop spending so much money, meet new people, starting to sound familiar? We always start the New Year off with kick in the butt to get stuff done and then bits and pieces of it fall away as the year goes on. To make something stick, you’ve got be committed, you’ve got to stop making excuses, and you’ve got to learn to love it. Sure, some things are easier than others…so here’s two that aren’t hard at all 😉

There seems to be a huge fad on the coasts of the US (NY and LA, primarily) about green juice. That sweet elixir that comes from the freshest and finest veggies out there. I remember the first time I had one, about four years ago. Everyone stared at me like I had my head on backwards, here I was with a see through cup and straw, drinking what looked like a glass of sludge. Today, everyone has a big mug of gack and it’s normal to mix kale and blueberries now. So, when I moved out to Chicago and realized that the Midwest isn’t as “Green” as the Big Apple, I had a mild heart attack. Green juice isn’t just a “thing” for me, I don’t eat nearly enough vegetables and this was how I got my leafy greens in, it replaced coffee and milkshakes when I had cravings, and it kept me hydrated when I was tired of drinking water all day. Devastated, and not having $500 for a nice home juicer, I surrendered. Enter Mom: who saved the day! If you’re needing your fruits and vegetables in liquid form like me, or just want to give health a new kick, the hand blender is your friend! A cup or two of your favorite antioxidants and proteins , about five minutes of your time and some water and you’re in business. I make my green juice almost every morning while drinking my coffee and by the time I leave for the office I’ve got my green slush in a water bottle. Fair warning, blending does make it thick and at times a little chunky, but if texture doesn’t both you, it tastes just as good as the 18 year olds at the gym juice bar make it! One a day gives you the amount of veggies you need!

imageSo for those of us that are all juiced, gymed, and junk TV’ed out, here is something that requires little effort but huge returns. Lumosity. I’ve been seeing the commercials for years and always meant to try to out, but didn’t actually jump on the bandwagon until late last month. The site is exactly what it claims to be, games that exercise your brain. Most are fun…the math ones are not (but that’s just me!), the same way some people favor cardio over lifting weights. It takes about 15 minutes a day to train the brain and the site measures your progress based on goals, markers, and a point system. But does it really work? That’s the question I was asking myself. It says I’m improving but can you really prove it? Story time! When I was in second grade, we had an in-class spelling bee. I rock at spelling…but not out loud. I was the only one who could spell butterflies, because five people before me got it wrong and I had enough time to scribble it out on my desk with my finger. I probably wouldn’t be able to spell my name out loud if it wasn’t only five letters long. I transpose letters, stick extra vowels in, and overall butcher words. So, imagine my shock, the other day, when I spelled out an entire 18 letter e-mail address out loud, letter for letter, without even as much as a mental stumble. Coincidence? Sure, could be, but I can not reiterate to you how much I CAN NOT spell out loud. So, maybe there is a method to the madness. I figure, if I really need to be on the computer, I might as well be doing something useful rather than refreshing my Facebook feed.

Being a better you comes slowly, and your priorities change with age and life experience, but there are things we can do that will benefit us all our lives, these are just two. Doing it everyday, or almost everyday teaches our minds and our bodies that it’s normal, and when something becomes normal, it stops being something we have to try at. So, try it out, make a commitment, and maybe these two baby goals will benefit you too!

20 Things To Not-not Do in Your 20’s December 12, 2013

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I know you all hate it when I give you homework, but this one is worth it, I promise: Read Me!

You may have seen this article from Elite Daily floating around your newsfeed or twitter ticker, and if you haven’t looked at it yet, it’s a great read and it has a lot of beneficial information. There are many points that I couldn’t agree with more, some, I read and think “Yeah, I wish I had known what I know now, then”, and few that just make me laugh, because I knew them all along and had to sit back and watch my friends trip over their own mistakes. However, there was one overwhelming mood to these twenty things that I couldn’t get over. That life is somehow going to turn out this way simply if you will it to.

The twenties are about one giant discovery. While I still have several years until I’m out of my own 20’s, I feel very comfortable with who I am. I do not feel like I’m at the level of financial stability that I want to be, nor do I feel 100% content with my career, while I’m very happy with it. I may be a very mature 20-something, but that doesn’t mean I just did everything I was told to get here. When I befriend younger 20’s, I’m always happily, amused by their lives, because it makes me very nostalgic of my own. I tell them to date a lot, spend more money than they think they have, and try a lot of different things. Sometimes, what you learn will surprise you about yourself, your career, and what you want for your life overall. Do you know how many people I’ve met that wanted to be lawyers and ended up bakers, happy as can be; or friends of mine who followed through with all their schooling, got the perfect job, and now wish they had taken some time off here or there to learn more about the world, or themselves. This road is hard, and for most of us, we encounter a lot of unforeseen circumstances. I don’t like the idea that if you just “follow the rules” and keep your head screwed on straight, everything will happen naturally, as it should.

The truth about your twenties is that no matter what you do, they’re probably going to be a mess. I was full-time student with two jobs, completely supporting myself, I was “doing it” right, but I still got nailed with over $1,200 dollars in taxes when I did my return. I didn’t sway from “the rules”, I didn’t spend all my money on clothes and alcohol. When I was in my early twenties, my parents got divorced, and that ruined a lot for me. That didn’t mean I was doing something wrong, it didn’t mean I was making “mistakes” it’s just called life and that’s what this article doesn’t prepare you for.

There is a point that says you should work on your career and not do jobs that don’t teach you anything. First and foremost, you learn something from every single job you have. I don’t care if you’re picking up after dogs all day, you’re going to learn something. There is no job too small or too menial for anyone, that’s what the article should have told you. Also, not all of us can just graduate college and bing bam boom you’re working jobs you want. Most of us have to work those part-times, those waitress jobs, those “Hi, how can I help you” type gigs in order to pay our bills. So, working a job just for money isn’t a waste of time, it’s a way of life. Eventually, you’ll get a job that’ll make you lots of money and won’t be paycheck to paycheck anymore, and you’ll actually like it, but until then, you’ve got rent to pay; and just because you’re going to do “something of value” doesn’t mean you’re going to ever “cash out big”, most people don’t, that doesn’t mean they aren’t happy.GIRLS-DUNHAM_510x317

I also felt that this article was so career driven…and that’s not a bad thing, in the least! What is fails to do is recognize that people are different and they have different dreams. I, for one, am incredibly career driven, I’ll probably end up working way past retirement age because I really enjoy working. However, one of my biggest dreams is to have a family and I don’t know that I’d give that up for anything. For me, being a relatively young mother is important, so yes, the twenties were about finding love and finding someone to be with. Perhaps many take that to an extremely, giving up everything for love, but I think it’s wrong to tell people they can’t do that. I know plenty of people that didn’t establish themselves until they were 34, even 37. Are we all supposed to wait to find love until then? For women, there is more to love than just “the right time”, there is “time” to have children and that isn’t something we can control.

Lastly, don’t be a martyr. The article tells you to forge your own path, and I couldn’t agree more. However, it doesn’t tell you there’s a time and place to do that. The article personifies someone running down the hill with a  flaming torch, screaming, while all others stand at the top of the hill and slowly walk the other way. It’s fine if you want to be an individual, but no one is going to respect a 20-something going against the grain “just-because”. If you have a mission and you believe in it, do that, but don’t try to prove you’re differentiation to others. Just be you.

I guess what I’m saying is, take everything you read with a grain of salt. This is a great article, it’s just not perfect. Being non-perfect is okay, so if you don’t fit every nook, mold and cranny of this article, don’t worry about it. Trust your intuition and do what’s in your heart, that’s the only way you’re going to be happy in the long run, way after your 20’s have come and gone.